Since the introduction of smart phones and social media the desire to be perfect has increased in our culture. While it’s a positive to set goals and aim high, it can turn negative if you begin to feel contradictory emotions while on the journey to achieve the end goal.
It boils down to adaptability and positive self-talk.
For example, if a non-perfectionist makes a mistake, they can feel let down but also recognize that mistakes are normal and are willing to use it as a learning tool. In other words, they do not self-depreciate themselves when a mistake is made.
On the other side, a perfectionist will feel like a failure and frustrated by a mistake. Or they may be so scared to actually make a mistake that don’t even take action. This causes this type of person to become vulnerable to mental conditions such as depression, anxiety, frustration and other negative disorders.
Signs of Perfectionis
- Fearing you’ll be judged for imperfections
- Unwilling to make mistakes
- Social withdraw
- Lack of self-care, due to overworking
- Actions resulting in bad quality of life.
- Break big goals into smaller goals
- Start with a small goal such as, organizing your closet. Instead of giving it 100% do it at about 80% and experiment with accepting it.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Seek professional help
So remember, it’s not perfect to be perfect. We all make mistakes which are necessary for learning and growing. Life’s a journey and while you cannot control obstacles in your path you can choose how to handle them.
Do you want to handle your thoughts poorly or do want to handle them positively?