Since the introduction of smart phones and social media the desire to be perfect has increased in our culture. While it’s a positive to set goals and aim high, it can turn negative if you begin to feel contradictory emotions while on the journey to achieve the end goal.
It boils down to adaptability and positive self-talk.
For example, if a non-perfectionist makes a mistake, they
can feel let down but also recognize that mistakes are normal and are willing
to use it as a learning tool. In other words, they do not self-depreciate themselves
when a mistake is made.
On the other side, a perfectionist will feel like a failure and frustrated by a mistake. Or they may be so scared to actually make a mistake that don’t even take action. This causes this type of person to become vulnerable to mental conditions such as depression, anxiety, frustration and other negative disorders.
Signs of Perfectionist
Fearing you’ll be judged for imperfections
Unwilling to make mistakes
Lack of self-care, due to overworking
Actions resulting in bad quality of life.
Break big goals into smaller goals
Start with a small goal such as, organizing your closet. Instead of giving it 100% do it at about 80% and experiment with accepting it.
Be kind to yourself.
Seek professional help
So remember, it’s not perfect to be perfect. We all make mistakes which are necessary for learning and growing. Life’s a journey and while you cannot control obstacles in your path you can choose how to handle them.
Do you want to handle your thoughts poorly or do want to
handle them positively?
Forming any new habit can be hard to stick to. The first
week you may be revved up and hitting all your goals but shortly after this you
may find yourself hitting a wall. The
motivation wears out its welcome and find yourself going back to your old ways.
This seems especially true when it comes to working out.
Working out can be one of the top activities where you can
find an excuse to get out of it. The excuses of not having enough time, not
feeling like it, having an injury or headache, and so on. The only real reason
why these excuses are coming up is because you allow it. If you really want to
form a new habit you have to ignore the excuses in your head and just do it.
(Just like the tennis shoe!)
In order to create a new habit of working out, here are some suggestions that hopefully will help you out.
Tips for Creating a Lasting Habit
The first thing is to get real with yourself and set
realistic goals that you know you can do. You don’t want to set your goal so
high that it’s impossible to reach. It’s not fun and motivating to not reach a
goal. Instead, make it a goal you know you will be able to easily handle.
In other words, if you haven’t been to the gym in over a year, what makes you think you can realistically show up there 5 days a week? Take it down a notch! Try to do about 3 times a week and if you show up on more days, then considered it a bonus and reward yourself for the bonus days! Shit, set your goal for 2 days but go 3 days and really reward yourself for doing that 3rd day!
Which, this is a great transition to get to the fun part of setting up new habits. The rewards!
Our brains are wired to repeat actions that bring us
pleasure and to avoid actions that we don’t necessary like to do. That’s how every single human on this planet
behaves. There’s no denying it, there’s no changing it. This is just how we
are. So for that reason you need to find out what you can do to trick your
brain into thinking that working out is a pleasurable experience.
In order to do this….you need to reward yourself. And don’t be stingy about it! In the beginning plan a reward for yourself for every week you accomplish your work out goals.
Some people like to create a calendar and mark off the days they did their workouts, with fun stickers. This allows you to visually track you getting closer to your goals and it makes them happy to see it. Once the week is over, now give yourself the reward.
Types of Rewards
This is the most important factor make your reward a non-food related item. And as the weeks keep growing,
make the reward better.
So for example, for the first week reward yourself with a manicure or pedicure. Or hell, even just buy a new nail polish color that you love. The second week, reward yourself with a new water bottle or cup. Third week, get a new workout shirt. And the fourth week, treat yourself to a massage! I mean, if you did a month straight, that’s amazing!!! Reward yourself and keep it coming!
After this first month, start it all over again for the next month. Over time, going to the gym and working out will become easier to do and at some point it will just become a habit. You’ll no longer think of excuses but instead find yourself easily heading to the gym, without much thought about it.
Make Your New Habit Fun
It’s also a good idea to do exercises that you love to do.
Make it as pleasurable as you can. So, join a Zumba class if that makes you
happy. Or a boxing class. Or walk on the treadmill if that’s your thing! In the
beginning as your growing the habit, don’t worry about following a routine or
doing a work out you “think” you should be doing. Instead do workouts that
bring you the most joy and then reward yourself for it!
If it wasn’t for meal planning and prepping, I would be a complete unhealthy mess and probably be slamming down an entire package of pita bread right about now.
By planning out your weekly meals, it cuts out the excuse to eat out and answers the question of, “what’s for dinner?”. By planning out your meals and then prepping them for the week, it will be easier to stay on the healthier and ultimately happier side of life.
So ask yourself the question, do you want a much smoother transition to healthy eating while also practicing responsible portion control?
While the act of meal planning and prepping can take up some hours on your actual prep day, it does allow more free time during the week. Plus, the more you make planning and prepping a habitual habit, the quicker and easier you will get at preparing it.
So before you hit up the grocery store, really think about what it is you want to make for the week. Write it down or look up healthy recipes online on the foods your craving. Then write down the ingredients you don’t have, and voila! You have your grocery list!
Also before prepping you are going to want to find or buy food storage containers. Some with dividers and are microwavable would be ideal. Make sure you have enough for all your lunches or for anything else you want to store separately for convenience.
Once you have everything ready, it’s time to prep! Depending on what you are making, you may or may not be able to make the entire meal and then store it in the fridge (to be heated up later). If this is a meal that needs to be cooked or assembled on the day you are eating it, then prep everything for that meal. Try to do as much as you possibly can to have the meal close to being complete. This means cutting up your veggies, cooking noodles or anything else similar to that.
It becomes less complicated the less meals you are making. So if you find this to be overwhelming, maybe decide to eat the same thing three or two times a week. That way you can just make a bigger portion of the meal, instead of all separate meals.
For myself, I’m able to eat the same thing every week for breakfast and lunch, so that makes my prepping easier. For my dinners, I rotate between two different dinners on every other day, so it’s very manageable to prep. I also choose two snacks for the day, and try to keep it at 100 calories each.
Hopefully this process helps you out. You can put in hours at the gym and burn calories but you also have to watch what you eat. By meal planning and meal prepping it allows you to consciously think about your food and to make the smarter choices.
I would love to hear what you guys think of this? Have you tried meal prepping before? It did work for you, or not? What are some of your favorite things to prep, or what do you think would be convenient to prep?
When you hear the word, “healthy person” what do you picture?
A perfectly fit person exercising at the gym barely breaking a sweat?
Anyone who you consider to be “skinny”?
A lot of people assume that thinner and muscular people are on the top level of absolute health. But that’s not always accurate. People with what you may consider to have perfect bodies are not always the healthiest. In fact, skinny people can be just as unhealthy as overweight people.
Therefore, your size and weight doesn’t matter. I’ll say it again. Your size and weight doesn’t matter.
If you survive on an unhealthy diet and don’t move around much….you’re going to become unhealthy, if you’re not already.
Those who exercise and eat healthy on a regular basis are likely going to be physically healthier than the rest.
So the first step to become healthy is to eat healthy foods and to get up and move around.
I know, it sounds easier said than done. I completely understand.
But the hard core truth is that if you want to become healthier than that’s what needs to be done.
So next time you feel like playing the game of who’s healthy and who’s not…take a look at how often that person moves and what it is that they are eating. Those are the real qualities to look for whether a person is healthy or not.