How to Improve Our Emotional Intelligence

Growing up we were taught that our IQ score would determine how intelligent we are. The higher the IQ the more successful we would be in life.

However, there is more to intelligence than the intellectual level. In fact, most successful leaders, such as billionaire Warren Buffet does not have a higher IQ than the rest of us. Instead he shows a tremendous amount of emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence, (EI) is the ability to control and express our emotions in a clear and well thought out manner, while also having the ability to recognize emotions in others.

Individuals who have high levels of emotional intelligence are good listeners who show empathy to others. They are a person that others seek out for support or advice due to their compassion and open mind. Due to having their emotions under control they are also adaptable to change and able to express themselves clearly.

Now, we may be asking, how do we improve our emotional intelligence?

The best method out there is to practice mindful meditation.

Mindful meditation is being aware and staying in the present moment. In other words, let go of the past and stop thinking about the future. Just simply enjoy and pay attention to this present moment we are in.

According to John Darwin from the Centre for Mindful Life Enhancement, “Regular practice of mindfulness meditation can enhance our ability to understand our own emotions” By calming the mind through meditation, our ability increases to recognize our own emotions.

As we begin to become aware of our emotions, we are able to recognize and control them under intense or upsetting situations. This allows us to think deeply upon our actions and words before subconsciously blurting them out.

This is one of the main reasons why highly emotional intelligent people are more successful in the workplace and build more meaningful and beneficial relationships with others.

The best part is that we can practice mindful mediation any time and any place.

Mindful meditation doesn’t require any special instructions.

Find a comfortable pose in a quiet space and choose any amount of time.

Relax the body, (including facial muscles) and close the eyes. It may be helpful to play calm music or concentrate on the breath, as a tool for staying in the present moment.

Think of daily mediation practice as important as preparing for a meeting or test.

This daily practice will lead to a higher level of emotional intelligence, which only increases our ability to find success and happiness in our lives.

Meal Planning & Meal Prepping

If it wasn’t for meal planning and prepping, I would be a complete unhealthy mess and probably be slamming down an entire package of pita bread right about now.

By planning out your weekly meals, it cuts out the excuse to eat out and answers the question of, “what’s for dinner?”.  By planning out your meals and then prepping them for the week, it will be easier to stay on the healthier and ultimately happier side of life.

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So ask yourself the question, do you want a much smoother transition to healthy eating while also practicing responsible portion control?

While the act of meal planning and prepping can take up some hours on your actual prep day, it does allow more free time during the week. Plus, the more you make planning and prepping a habitual habit, the quicker and easier you will get at preparing it.

So before you hit up the grocery store, really think about what it is you want to make for the week. Write it down or look up healthy recipes online on the foods your craving. Then write down the ingredients you don’t have, and voila! You have your grocery list!

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Also before prepping you are going to want to find or buy food storage containers. Some with dividers and are microwavable would be ideal. Make sure you have enough for all your lunches or for anything else you want to store separately for convenience.

Once you have everything ready, it’s time to prep! Depending on what you are making, you may or may not be able to make the entire meal and then store it in the fridge (to be heated up later). If this is a meal that needs to be cooked or assembled on the day you are eating it, then prep everything for that meal. Try to do as much as you possibly can to have the meal close to being complete. This means cutting up your veggies, cooking noodles or anything else similar to that.

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It becomes less complicated the less meals you are making. So if you find this to be overwhelming, maybe decide to eat the same thing three or two times a week. That way you can just make a bigger portion of the meal, instead of all separate meals.

For myself, I’m able to eat the same thing every week for breakfast and lunch, so that makes my prepping easier. For my dinners, I rotate between two different dinners on every other day, so it’s very manageable to prep. I also choose two snacks for the day, and try to keep it at 100 calories each.

Hopefully this process helps you out. You can put in hours at the gym and burn calories but you also have to watch what you eat. By meal planning and meal prepping it allows you to consciously think about your food and to make the smarter choices.

I would love to hear what you guys think of this? Have you tried meal prepping before? It did work for you, or not? What are some of your favorite things to prep, or what do you think would be convenient to prep?