Abandoning Perfectionism

Since the introduction of smart phones and social media the desire to be perfect has increased in our culture. While it’s a positive to set goals and aim high, it can turn negative if you begin to feel contradictory emotions while on the journey to achieve the end goal.

It boils down to adaptability and positive self-talk.

For example, if a non-perfectionist makes a mistake, they can feel let down but also recognize that mistakes are normal and are willing to use it as a learning tool. In other words, they do not self-depreciate themselves when a mistake is made.

On the other side, a perfectionist will feel like a failure and frustrated by a mistake. Or they may be so scared to actually make a mistake that don’t even take action. This causes this type of person to become vulnerable to mental conditions such as depression, anxiety, frustration and other negative disorders.

Signs of Perfectionis

  • Fearing you’ll be judged for imperfections
  • Unwilling to make mistakes
  • Social withdraw
  • Lack of self-care, due to overworking
  • Actions resulting in bad quality of life.

Treatments

  • Break big goals into smaller goals
  • Start with a small goal such as, organizing your closet. Instead of giving it 100% do it at about 80% and experiment with accepting it.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Seek professional help
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So remember, it’s not perfect to be perfect. We all make mistakes which are necessary for learning and growing. Life’s a journey and while you cannot control obstacles in your path you can choose how to handle them.

Do you want to handle your thoughts poorly or do want to handle them positively?

Never Underestimate the Power of White Space

Remember what your teacher said about writing paragraphs?

That paragraphs are sentences on the same topic, put together in one block. We only start a new paragraph if we are transitioning to a new topic. Remember that?

Well, when it comes to blog writing you can take that advice and throw it out the window!

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In order to create an effective blog you need to create white space and not have your sentences all jumbled together.

If you’ve never heard of white space (aka blank/negative space), it’s all this empty space around these words and in between these paragraphs.

You might be thinking, “Who cares about space?! What’s the big deal?”

Well, it’s a huge deal.

Why White Space is Important

When you are blogging, your readers likely are not reading everything that you are writing. Sorry to say! Most of us online readers are skimming the page. It’s just what we all do.

Usually we are looking for pieces of information and just want to be able to find the answers and then move on. So in order to help our readers out, we create a lot of white space.

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Easier to Scan With Our Eyes

With white space your eyes have a clear layout which allows the page to be easily and quickly scanned. Not to mention doing this also makes it easier to understand as well, providing a better experience for the reader.

Shows Organization

White space allows to visually show how your blog post is organized. It also helps you keeps your place, in case you look up from the page for a second. You’re able to turn right back to the page and quickly find where you left off.

Think if you had the page all jumbled up. It would be too cluttered to scan and to visually map out.

I like to use headers on each topic so that it’s easier to scan as well. I feel like this leads your eye to the important information that you are seeking.

Appealing to Readers

White space also makes your post more attractive and keeps your readers intrigued and engaged. Too much clutter is a post is no good! It doesn’t lead the eyes to important information and instead of figuring it out, your readers will just hit the back button and find a new website to get the answers.

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If you’re unsure of how to use blank space, then look at the blogs that you enjoy reading and see how organize it. While it sounds easy, there are many different ways you can create this blank space and use headers.

And if you’re still reading this then I guess I did something right in my use of whites pace! Remember that it’s an important tool to use and never underestimate the power of white space!

Tips for Writer’s Block

At some point in all writers’ careers, it’s going to happen. The inevitable writers block. It could last for a few minutes, a few days or even longer.

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I know that sometimes, it can take me a few days to find the right words or the right way to deliver the message I’m trying to convey. I think that’s is sometimes just the creative process. But once I find it, I love it! That’s how I know that while writing can be a struggle, I still get giddy and love the process of finding the right words. So maybe instead of seeing writer’s block as a struggle, just think of it as the process.

One thing that I find helps me overcome writer’s block is my journal writing. This is my own private journal and I allow myself to be completely free when writing it in. Sometimes, I just repeat the same words over and over again. Sometimes, I just describe some object in the room that I’m looking at. Most of the time, I let out all my frustrations or emotions upon my keyboard.

Although, I save the work, I don’t re-read it or edit it. I leave it completely raw. Because that makes me feel like I have more freedom.

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By completing the journal entry it makes me feel like I accomplished a piece of writing and frees up space in my creative process to move forward and tackle more writing challenges.

So, if you ever find yourself in this situation, you may want to give journal writing a try! I know it’s my trick to overcoming the block.

What about you other writers? What do you do to overcome writers block?

Do you Make These 5 Blogging Mistakes?

If you have a blog and it seems to be going nowhere, you may want to re-examine your technique. Especially if you are losing followers. Below are 5 common blog mistakes writers can be accustomed too, without realizing its harmful.

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Not Writing Consistently

The more consistent you write for your blog, the better. Especially if you have followers. They followed you for a reason, so give them what they want. More blogs that will make their day! This also tends to gain respect and trust from your readers as well. They know they can rely on you for consistent updates and news.

Too Many Topics

Oh man! Talking about too many topics can be really overwhelming and chaotic for your reader. Imagine this scenario….I just discovered your site and am skimming through your blog. Your blog…is right up my alley. You’re talking about the Kardashians, Ariana Grande and all the celebrity gossip. I am loving it! But then all of the sudden, I hit “Next” and your talking about how the architecture aspect of the Sears Tower was based off a pack of cigarettes. What? You completely switched topics and confused me. So, guess what…I’m leaving your site and now going to find another site by googling more celebrity gossip.

For this reason, I would advise to write between one or three topics.

Ignoring Your Audience

You need to write with a purpose and your audience is that purpose. Remember that you are writing for them. They are coming to your site for help, information or to just enjoy your writing. So keep them in mind when discussing topics. If you are unsure who your audience is, then you need to do some research and discover who they are.

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Lousy Quality

Sometimes bloggers focus more on quantity, instead of quality. While it’s important to be consistent in your blog writing, you also want to make sure it’s your best work. Good quality goes all long way. 12 crappy blogs will turn a reader away versus one great blog, which may attract a follower or two.

No Use of Tone

Writing a blog is not the same as writing an academic research paper. So, have fun with it! Do not go all monotone boring. Instead, write like you talk. Show your excitement or your dislike for something. Get your readers involved by letting them see your personality.

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Having a blog means that you learn and grow from your mistakes. That’s a part of the process and it’s apart of the fun of it. It’s all about discovering what works for you from trial and error. Hopefully now that you know these top 5 mistakes, you’ll be able to adjust your blogging methods and see if that helps you out.

Do any of you guys have any other suggestions? Anything that did or did not work for you? If so , please share in the comments. I would love to hear from you.

Top 5 Advantage Of Using Social Media for Your Business

Having social media accounts for your business is an effective marketing tool. Most people check their social media accounts numerous times a day. Therefore, it only makes sense that having social media helps boost sales and grows your business. You need to market on the platform where your customers are going. Below are 5 advantages of using social media for your business:

  • Allows you to connect and interact on a personal level

  • Further develops your brand and voice

  • Increases traffic to website

  • Allows for customer feedback

  • Improved search engine ratings

This will need to be monitored daily, because there are some risks when having social media. The main thing is that if you have someone being bullying or harassing others. You could also get negative feedback which you would want to be handled immediately. So it’s important to have a staff member to monitor your social media activity.

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Master the Art of Writing With These 5 Tips

When you think of a professional writer you may imagine someone who can always find the right words immediately. Which can be true, but it’s not likely a writer begin that way. Mastering the Art of Writing takes time and discipline. Below are 5 tips that will help you prepare to become a better writer.

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#1 – Write every single day

I know. Sometimes writing is daunting and you’re just not feeling it. But, if you discipline yourself to write every single day, it’ll become a lot easier and you’ll find it’s more enjoyable. Throughout the process you will also find your voice and become better with every day.

#2 – Discover your passion and make it your niche

Your energy and love for a topic shines in your writing. Therefore, you don’t want to be writing anything that you find boring. This will reflect in your writing and your readers will likely find your tone boring as well. Plus, why waste time researching and writing about something you don’t like. So be sure to be passionate about your topics.

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#3 – Always be learning and reading

Even if you have found your niche, do not think that you know it all. There is always something else to learn and to research. You want to be an expert at your field and trends are always changing. So, never assume you know it all. Instead open yourself up to learning and reading as much as possible.

#4 – Keep the rough draft…rough

In other words do not edit the first draft. Make the first draft messy! This is how you can let go and get out everything. It allows you to not have any distractions that may interrupt your creative process. Trying to make it look pretty in the first round, can be detrimental. You can easily forget the things you were going to say, all because you needed to go back a spell a word correctly.

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#5 – Take breaks

Once you have written everything out on the rough draft, step away from it. It’s all there on the paper anyway, so you can take a break. Look at it again with fresh eyes in a few hours or days later. This will make the writing process easier. If you do everything at once, your brain kind of turns into mush, and you’ll likely miss easy grammatical errors. So give yourself and your brain some time to relax and approach the piece at a later time.

It really comes down to figuring out what works for you as a writer. One method or tip may work for one writer and not another. These 5 tips usually help most writers learn how to become more productive and thoughtful in their writing. Hopefully you find them helpful as well.

Blog Like a Pro with the Help of These 5 Tips

Blogging is a fun and creative way to share your voice and connect with more people. But if your blog is not set up correctly, readers might be missing out on what you have to say.

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Online readers move fast and are quick to move from page to page. In order to hold your readers attention it’s crucial to follow these 5 blogging tips below.

Write original content. You’re not going to go far if you’re copying and pasting blog posts from other sites. If you are not being your authentic self, readers will pick up on it quickly and dismiss your site.

Be factual. You don’t want to give out misleading or false information. While research may be time consuming, it’ll be worth it in the end. Be as accurate as possible to gain your readers trust and they will come back for more.

Short sentences. All of us, are typically only skimming the page when reading online. For this reason, it’s important to create short sentences. This allows your readers to move their eyes faster onto to page and internalize the information. Keep your blog between 300 – 500 words. If you have to many words, the reader will lose interest and move on.

White space. Creating white space between your paragraphs, allows the readers eyes to easily navigate through the page. Seeing a bunch of words all smooched together looks time consuming and hard to read. But having white space directs the eyes to keep moving down to read further.

Share the knowledge. Your readers are online looking for answers to questions. Share what you know and give it away for free. If you don’t have the answers, your readers will find another site that does. So don’t hide the material, give out the answers.

These are your basic tips to follow when blogging. I also like to bold certain words because I feel it stands out for someone skimming.

Hopefully you made it to end of this post and are reading this. If you are then my tips worked!

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